limit-setting triage

Set the boundary without turning it into an apology, debate, or fight.

boundary-check is a deterministic first pass for one hard drafting moment: you know the limit, but you are about to soften it, explain it to death, or say it with more heat than the situation needs.

zero API same draft, same result client, recruiter, support, family, workplace, dating, cofounder

live checker

Paste one boundary draft

Draft text

context

send the boundary

18 words · client context

thread posture

clear-limit

repair moves

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proof by example

Three boundary drafts with very different failure modes

what it catches

Most weak boundaries fail because the limit gets hidden behind fear.

The person may be a client, recruiter, parent, cofounder, or someone you are dating. The draft failure mode is often the same: too much apology, too much explanation, too many escape hatches, or too much heat.

what it does not do

This is not a moral verdict, legal check, or full relationship diagnosis.

It only judges whether this one draft sounds like a usable limit. If the real issue is the whole pattern of pressure, use tells for the deeper read.

why it matters

One porous boundary invites another round of pressure.

A clean line can save hours of re-explaining. A weak line turns into another loop. This page is for stopping the loop before you hit send.

next step

Need more than a one-draft posture check?

boundary-check is the narrow free pass. tells is the paid move when the draft is only one symptom and the thread, person, or recurring pressure pattern needs a fuller read.

deep dive · $19 once all free checks starter · $14.99/mo